Lying is a frustrating challenge for parents. But If you understand why children lie, you can help your children be more honest. It simply refers to changes in the way your child organizes information. It’s a normal step, so you don’t have to worry about your child becoming a pathological liar.
Children often have a legitimate reason to stretch the truth: they want to avoid punishment, parental disappointment, or an unpleasant outcome.
So they may lie about a bad choice they’ve made, or make up ridiculous stories to impress you.
And of course, if our children lie to us outright, we want to punish them to make sure it doesn’t happen again.Unfortunately, that’s exactly what happens: if we punish kids for lying, to avoid future punishment, certainly they’ll continue to do so.
So if we can’t punish them, how to stop a child from lying?
By looking at the reasons why children lie, we can create an environment where they feel safe to tell the truth. By following seven tips you can stop your child from lying and make your home a more honest place.
1. Don’t make up a lie.
If you see piles of clothes on your child’s floor, don’t ask him if he has ever cleaned her room.
When we ask questions we already know the answer to, we give our children the opportunity to tell a lie. Instead, focus on how to fix the situation. If you know that your child hasn’t touched his homework, ask him, “What are your plans to finish your homework?
Instead of asking : “Where did all this mud come from,” ask, “What can we do to clean it up and make sure it doesn’t happen again next time?
This can help avoid a power struggle and allow your child to save face by focusing on a plan of action rather than making up an excuse.
It also teaches them what they can do next time – sit down with their homework right after school or take their shoes off in the locker room instead of in the classroom – to avoid problems.